Conflict Resolution Therapy

Are you a parent of teenagers, struggling to maintain peace in your home?
Do you have a hard time addressing disagreements with your boss or co-workers?
Do you and your partner have arguments that never seem to get resolved?
Do you feel anxious when conflict arises?

Although these are very common feelings, It does not have to be this way. Conflict resolution therapy can teach you how to cope during challenging situations by helping you focus on finding solutions as you navigate conflict.

In any type of relationship, be it personal or professional, conflict is bound to happen. It’s not reasonable or realistic to expect two people to always agree on everything.

Even though conflict is a normal, healthy part of any relationship, trying to deal with it when it comes up can feel anything but healthy or normal.

Since disagreements are an expected part of life, learning to handle them in a positive and meaningful way is crucial.

Unfortunately in our culture conflict is taken as a negative part of life. People fear it, avoid it, deny it.

A conflict that is not resolved creates resentment and distance among people. It spills negativity in families, in a marriage, among friends, in the school, and in the work environment.

We were not educated to deal with it properly. There are several aspects that are fundamental to manage conflict in a healthy way. These are skills which can be taught, which you can learn.

You do not have to feel threatened, frozen, scared or angry when facing conflicts. I can teach you to see the opportunity into the crisis.

Conflict actually brings light into issues that have been in between people and that if left untouched, will ruin your relationships, and might make you lose control over the direction you want your life to go.

For example, if you lack intimacy in your marriage it might be a source of conflict. Fearing it, you decide not to face it. Your need is still there; you try to rationalize and look into the positive aspects of your partner.

Your need is still there; that little voice is saying “I need intimacy, please do something about it.” You do not want to fight. You push your need out, ignore the little voice. You feel good: “I am in control, I am not creating any conflict. I will grow into accepting that she has a hard time with it; it will go away.”

All of sudden you find yourself dreading going home. You feel sad and resentful. The relationship is pretty much empty. Instead of facing it and working in the relationship with your partner, you decide to push it away once more.

“I do not want to create waves; I will adapt.” You decide to go on Happy Hours, you start drinking, you might even find a justification to get into a relationship with another person.

Then it is too late for this marriage. And the little conflict becomes a war, you hurt your children, your partner, yourself and even your lover.

By deciding to ignore conflict you maximize it.

What could have happened if you had faced it when it was only an unfulfilled need?

Your partner might have felt upset, not good enough, sad. You possibly would feel guilty, angry or sad. But you guys would look into it.

You both would be open and vulnerable and would negotiate the needs of each one. You might not have the relationship exactly your way, but you would find a happy medium.

The love you had for each would be rekindled, you would learn more about each other, you would rediscover your partner and you both would come out stronger.

That is to be in control; it is to take action and aim your life in the direction you would like to go.

An ignored conflict is a sure way to sabotage yourself and to find your life very far away from your plans and wishes.

It is like being in a boat on the river without conducting your vessel. You can get stuck in the mud, you can go miles away and never know where you will end up or you can actually be thrown into a waterfall. The common aspect is that you lose control over the outcome.

“Conflict is like a compass. It shows you if you are getting out of your route; if you read it well, you adjust and go back on track. If you don’t you are lost.”

– Mayra Bagnoli –

The problem is that most of us do not know how to read the compass. Being in a culture of instant gratification, we frequently avoid working hard.

And conflict does demand you to work hard, especially for the first time. As you learn the tools to handle it, it becomes easier and easier and less and less complicated.

After an argument with a friend, romantic partner or co-worker, you may avoid them in an attempt to “keep the peace”.

You may hope that over time, the issue will resolve itself. By avoiding conflict or pretending nothing happened, you’ll create additional tension as this unspoken problem remains between you and the other person.

The next time you have a disagreement, one or both of you will be angry or resentful from the previous disagreement that was never resolved.

The Benefits of Therapy

Conflict resolution therapy will help you see conflict as an opportunity to develop your character and improve your relationships.

You’ll learn to successfully manage stress, control emotions, and focus on resolving the issue at hand. And then you be the master of your destiny!

So if you:

Have a co-worker you struggle to get along with
Can’t seem to come to an agreement with your spouse on important issues
Have an argumentative friend or family member
Want to learn how to “fight fair” with your spouse or partner
Need help managing your emotions during an argument
Want to find healthier, more effective ways of communicating your needs

… then conflict resolution therapy can help.

I can show you how to find the source of conflict so you can work quickly towards a resolution. I’ll teach you how to focus on a solution instead of shutting down, blaming or resenting the other person.

Conflict resolution therapy will help you learn that while you can’t control the other person, you can control how you respond to any stimuli.

The therapy will teach you communication tools, stress management options, the ability to self-regulate and not take things personally, the ability to learn to negotiate fairly and calmly.

The certainty to trust that conflict will help to adjust your course and will increase your ability to guide your vessel to your chosen destination.

“In a conflict, being willing to change allows you to move from a point of view to a viewing point – a higher, more expansive place, from which you can see both sides.”

– Thomas Crum –

Some people have a lot of difficulties handling conflict. A history of abuse or witnessing violence might automatically trigger a stress response. Yet, therapy can help you to develop a positive relationship with conflict.

If you’re having difficulties in the workplace, at home or in your social life and need support, conflict resolution therapy can teach you effective skills so that you can handle any situation.

Contact me today so that I can help you to manifest the strong, fearless person who lives inside you. And conflict will be… well, just a part of life.

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